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If science is right, you are a liar. Everybody is. In fact, studies show that human beings lie 2-to-3 times per ten minute conversation. On today’s show, a philosopher says lies aren’t all bad – and argues that deception is a part of every good relationship.

Plus, think Celine Dion is the pits? Can’t stand sappy ballads? We’ll hear why love songs are more than something to sing in the shower.

Listen to the full show and click Read more for individual segments.

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An estimated 5.2 million Americans have Alzheimer’s disease, with about 200,000 diagnosed under the age of 65. On today’s show, a new documentary provides a glimpse of a family grappling with early onset Alzheimer’s.

Then, romantic comedies capitalize on romantic notions of people finding their one true love, but a social psychologist explains why the concept of discovering your soul mate may not be the best strategy for long term relationships.

Listen to the full show and Read more for individual segments.


Word Of Mouth: 2.15.14

Feb 14, 2014
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Valentine's Day may be over, but Word of Mouth is still in the mood. We poured all the love we have to offer into our Saturday show. Listen to the full show and read more about each segment below.

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If Valentine's Day alone were not a slippery slope, consider this question: Muskrat Love?

Science long taught its practitioners--biologists in particular--to avoid ascribing human emotions or attributes to animals. But are we not animals ourselves? For the past century, animals were afforded no emotions despite exhibitions of behaviors humans recognize as emotional: anger, revenge, fear, and love.

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As editor of The New York Time’s “Modern Love” column since 2004, our guest Daniel Jones has read over 50,000 love letters.  Well, not love letters exactly, but letters about love.  Okay, and most of them aren’t actual physical letters, but emails.  Which says a lot about the state of romance in 2014, given how much of it sparks, burns, and is often extinguished from behind a computer screen.  Technology’s impact on modern love features heavily in Jones’ new book “Love Illuminated: Exploring Life’s Most Mystifying Subject with the Help of 50,000 Strangers”.

Love Is A Battlefield: Final

Feb 13, 2014
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Results for round 3 are in, and oh how the mighty have fallen! In the love category: Etta James trounced Paul McCartney. In heartbreak, Bill Withers narrowly beat Bonnie Raitt. Shocked by the results? Let us know on our Facebook page, so we can all commiserate together.

Listen to the list of songs below, and then vote right here!

Love Is A Battlefield: Round 3

Feb 12, 2014
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Results for round 2 are in, and oh how the mighty have fallen! In the love category: Etta James narrowly beat out The Righteous Brothers and Paul McCartney handily vanquished Billy Joel. In heartbreak battles, Bonnie won out over Smokey and Adele, poor sweet Adele, was positively trounced by none other than Bill Withers. Something tells us she would probably understand. Shocked by the results? Let us know on our Facebook page, so we can all commiserate together.

Listen to the list of songs below, and then vote right here!

Round Three begins NOW!

Love Is A Battlefield: Round 2

Feb 11, 2014
Sara Plourde

Results for round 1 are in, and the competition is heating up! Tempers of love are flaring in the Word of Mouth cube. Senior producer Maureen McMurray was none too happy to hear  Etta James' At Last is moving on to Round 2 over The Beach Boys' God Only Knows. Producer Taylor Quimby was concerned about the fate of Van Morrison's Sweet Thing.  And it turns out that nothing compares to Someone Like You; Adele managed a slim victory of Sinead O'Connor. What songs are you sad to see left behind? Comment on our Facebook page, then vote for the remaining contenders.

Listen to the list of songs below, and then vote right here! Round Two begins NOW!

Love Is A Battlefield: Round 1

Feb 10, 2014
Sara Plourde

Here it is, you lovebirds, you. The Word of Mouth sappy song bracket. Pat Benetar had it right. Love is a battlefield, and we've laid it out for you to see. At least, the songs. On one side, the songs of love. Ballads of the heart. Musings of adoration. Ruminations of... OK you get the idea. On the other side, songs of heartbreak. Those tear-inducing slow jams no one can resist.

Listen to the songs below, and then vote right here! Round One begins NOW!

Word Of Mouth's Super Sappy Bracket Contenders

Feb 7, 2014
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Dim the lights, pour a glass, and press play; Word of Mouth is about to woo you. We reached out for the sappiest songs on Facebook and Twitter and compiled the best of the best. Naturally, the next step is to make love a competition, right? Get ready, because your submissions are going head-to-head in our super sappy bracket. Who will come out on top? Love or Heartbreak? Bill Withers or Bill Withers? Before voting begins, take some time to get to know each song.  Check out the contenders, and prepare to fall in love.

Word Of Mouth Seeks Love Song Clichés

Feb 6, 2014
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... and long walks on the beach. Really, though. We need your help to find the most overused and overcheesed love song clichés to create one majorly sappy song. Do you have that lovin' feeling? Then leave some love on our Facebook page. Just as Michael Bolton couldn't live without his love, Word of Mouth can't live with you. *Sob*.

With Thanksgiving just around the corner, ‘tis the season for awkward dinners with your loved ones’ parents. It’s no secret that navigating your relationship with your in-laws can feel like walking through a minefield, but a new study suggests that keeping close to them is a sign of a healthy marriage – for some. According to Dr. Terri Orbuch, men who get close to their in-laws within a year are 20% less likely to go through divorce later in life, but women who do the same are 20% more likely to split with their husbands down the road.

Dr. Terri Orbuch is a professor of sociology and a regular contributor to the Huffington Post, where she’s known as “The Love Doctor.” This year, she published a 26-year study looking at love in relation to the in-laws.

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If the number one comedy on prime time TV is any indication –the CBS show The Big Bang Theory holds the coveted title--nerds are experiencing a kind of cultural renaissance. Despite the increased popularity of sci-fi conventions, cos-play, and board games, finding a mate who shares a love of all things nerdy can still be a challenge. Enter the cupid of nerds, Ryan Glitch, the creator and president of “Sci-Fi Speed Dating.” Glitch launched his speed dating enterprise in 2010 at a Star Wars convention and he’s been making matches at cons ever since.  IGN, a popular gaming and entertainment web site has created a web series about Ryan’s enterprise, called “Geek Love” which airs on their YouTube channel.

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A new study from the University of Chicago shows that couples who meet via online dating sites tend to have better relationships than couples who meet for the first time in person. Here to tell us more about these findings is Ingrid Wickelgren, editor with Scientific American MIND.  She wrote the article, “Does Finding Your Spouse Online Lead to a Stronger Marriage?”

Dollars And Sex

Feb 14, 2013
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At its most transparent, Valentine’s Day is a holiday built for consumption. That may sound like a bit of a buzz kill, but there is loads of research activity connecting our romantic ideals and more base human motivations to our decisions to spend and save…mostly spend. Joining us, is Dr. Marina Adshade who teaches Economics at the University of British Columbia, in Vancouver. She hit a nerve there in 2008 when she launched an undergraduate course called Economics of Sex and Love. It was an instant hit among students, and led to the launch of the Dollars and Sex blog and now, a book of the same title. It uses market research and economic analysis on matters of the heart and other anatomical bits.

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Dear Prudence (or Prudie as she is known by her fans) has the answers to all manner of relationship issues, handling delicate matters with aplomb, sensitivity, and humor. Emily Yoffe, a.k.a. Prudence, writes the Dear Prudence column for Slate and joins us to offer some last minute advice on Valentine’s Day.

When we first saw Robert Ito's Pacific Standard piece on folks who've fallen in love with their robots, we were all....huh? So of course, we booked him on the show. You can listen to that interview here:

But all that talk about human-robot love got us thinking...if a robot is the love of your life, how do you show it? Here are some ideas we dug up:

1) Buy him a snazzy costume!

ZOOsk

Jul 18, 2012
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Remember how people used to joke about online dating? What once was an easy target for digs about desperate singles and social pariahs is now a success story for oodles of couples and dozens of highly profitable dating services.  Among the unabashed masses of online daters these days is an unlikely demographic – the animal kingdom. Reyhan Harmancy is a staffer at Buzzfeed, where she wrote about how zoos use online dating methods to profile and pair species together. 

Showing Heart for NHPR

May 24, 2012
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Around the station, volunteers, pets and action toys are showing their love for NHPR and NPR.

After Marriage Ends, Exes Become 'Best Friends'

Apr 20, 2012

After the marriage between James Hanson-Brown and Lisa Combest ended, something unusual happened: Their relationship deepened.

"We got married Jan. 11, 1986, and the minister who married us told me, 'You guys are the best-matched couple I've ever talked to,' " Lisa recalls. "But I guess we were in our marriage for about a year when I started thinking that something was wrong. Emotionally I was supported, but it was the physical side of things."

At the same time, James was trying to figure out what was going wrong, as well.

With Valentine's Day over, let's get real about "Romance"…   Do any animals really mate for life?

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For Valentine's Day, we listen in on a few love stories from New Hampshire, stories about the many unusual places love can take us.

No doubt many of us are rushing out the door to grab a last minute Valentine’s Day gift for our significant others.

Our guest has a suggestion: hold off on the chocolates and flowers, and spend a little time talking to that loved one. 

iLove Don'ts

Feb 14, 2012
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Hallmark holiday or not, Valentine’s Day carries joy, expectations, sadness, and more than its share of tired tropes for just about everyone. What, we wondered, signals love in the age of digital-era dating? Synching calendars on Outlook? Downloading a marriage counselor app on your smart-phone?

As comedian John Fugelsang recalls, all in life was dandy until one fateful day, at age 6, he noticed an odd motif in some photos: "In every family picture ... my mother was wearing a habit."

Last August, he tweeted his parents' unusual love story — with photos — on the first anniversary of his father's death. In a series of blurbs 140 characters or less, he tells it better than I ever could: