Word of Mouth
11:26 am
Mon June 30, 2014

6.30.14: The Wedding Show

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Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue. Today Word of Mouth takes a matrimonial journey, from “I do”, to “I don’t”. First, how the American wedding has evolved from private affair, to public extravaganza. Then, put your iPhone down! Why more couples are opting for an unplugged wedding. Plus, a look into the legal barriers that make gay divorce even more complicated than same-sex marriage.

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Word of Mouth
9:56 am
Thu May 22, 2014

The Bride Wore Black

Milo & Etta Warner, 1901

All Dressed in White - it's the title of author Carol Wallace's look into the history of the American wedding, but it hasn't always held true for brides. On the frontier - a culture centered around migrant work & making do - a woman may only have a single good dress, designed for a decidedly different purpose.

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Word of Mouth
4:29 pm
Thu February 13, 2014

Any Night Can Be Date Night...With A Bit Of Effort

Nothing says "romance" like using paper towels for napkins
Credit Taylor Quimby for NHPR

For the parents of young children, getting out to a nice restaurant can require some tricky logistics.   Between babysitters, winter colds, and sheer exhaustion, it’s understandable when parents ditch romantic efforts in lieu of pajamas and another night of bad TV. But why not have a date night from the comfort of home?  My wife Tiffany and I discovered a way to enjoy the both of best worlds…sort of.

Want to know more about Plated, the service featured in this piece? Here's their website. 

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Word of Mouth
1:44 pm
Tue January 21, 2014

Rethink 2014: Sex and Relationships

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For centuries, marriage functioned as a political, practical, and economical union, depending on your station in life. For the aristocrats, a good marriage secured fortunes and position. For common folk, it meant having enough kids to work a farm. It is only in the last 100 years or so that the idea of a passionate marriage took hold of the popular imagination. Today, most of us are less worried about basic survival and can focus more on what we desire in a union. Usually a healthy, dynamic, secure, relationship that is predictable, but not when it comes to sex, which people want to be anything but staid and predicable. Our guest is Esther Perel, she's based her career on how to unite those conflicting desires. She’s a psychologist, sex therapist and author who specializes in couples and sexuality. Her TED talk (watch it below) on “The Secret to Desire in a Long-term Relationship” has over 2 million views. Her bestselling book is called “Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic.

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Word of Mouth
12:53 pm
Mon December 16, 2013

Wedding Photographer Explores What Happens After 'I Do'

The Valcourts
Matt Mendelsohn

There’s a lot of pressure on a wedding photographer, after all the expense and attention to planning the day, the photographer is charged with capturing all of it -- the fleeting expressions, the flattering angles and happy guests – images that reinforce the undisputable rightness of a couple’s decision to unite. But it’s just the beginning of a union. Only when the guests have gone home and the camera’s been put away does marriage begin in earnest.

Matt Mendelsohn is a writer and professional photographer of more than 450 weddings since 1999.  Matt explores the meaning of marriage by reconnecting with five couples whose weddings he photographed years before, to find out whether they’re relationships have grown, evolved, or ended.

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Word of Mouth
1:29 pm
Mon November 25, 2013

'The Love Doctor' Weighs In On The Science Of In-Law Relationships

Sitcoms that explore the in-law relationship. Clockwise from top left: All In The Family, Modern Family, Bewitched, Everybody Loves Raymond

With Thanksgiving just around the corner, ‘tis the season for awkward dinners with your loved ones’ parents. It’s no secret that navigating your relationship with your in-laws can feel like walking through a minefield, but a new study suggests that keeping close to them is a sign of a healthy marriage – for some. According to Dr. Terri Orbuch, men who get close to their in-laws within a year are 20% less likely to go through divorce later in life, but women who do the same are 20% more likely to split with their husbands down the road.

Dr. Terri Orbuch is a professor of sociology and a regular contributor to the Huffington Post, where she’s known as “The Love Doctor.” This year, she published a 26-year study looking at love in relation to the in-laws.

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Word of Mouth
1:41 pm
Wed November 6, 2013

Identifying The Motivation To Have Sex

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In 2007, researchers from the University of Texas categorized 237 motivations for humans to have sex. Recently, researchers at the University of Toronto divided the most common into two broad categories: approach motives pursue a positive outcome, like increasing intimacy; avoidance motives aim to avoid conflict or guilt. The Canadian team found that adding the fairly un-sexy drives of duty, resignation and guilt which significantly affect the health of a relationship, and could spell the difference between a happy marriage and a rocky one. Elizabeth Bernstein is a columnist for the Wall Street Journal, where she wrote about the studies published by University of Toronto in October.

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Arts & Culture
12:00 pm
Fri March 29, 2013

Capturing Love: N.H. Photographer Writes The Book On Same Sex Wedding Photography

Thea Dodds

In 2005, photographer Thea Dodds was hired to shoot a wedding in Massachusetts. She spoke to the prospective bride on the phone and drove down to meet the happy couple.

Dodds: I went and met them and it was two women (laughs). So I didn’t even know before I met them that it was a same-sex wedding.

That two-brides no groom job led to other same-sex weddings. And as she gained more experience, Dodds began to realize that she was falling into the same trap.

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All Things Considered
5:39 pm
Thu March 28, 2013

As The Supreme Court Considers Marriage, A Soldier's Wife Speaks Out

Charlie (left) and Karen Morgan, in a photo from 2011.
Credit Rick Ganley, NHPR

This week the US Supreme Court heard oral arguments on two high-profile cases about gay rights, including a challenge to the federal Defense of Marriage Act, known as DOMA.

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Word of Mouth
11:30 am
Thu February 14, 2013

A Rose By Any Other Name: Changing Your Name When You Marry

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Suffragette Lucy Stone is remembered as the first modern woman who decided to keep her maiden name after marriage – that was back in the 1850s.  The trend took more than a century to peak in the 1990s, when nearly a quarter of women bucked the tradition of taking on their husband’s name. Since then, that number has been in steady decline. According to the wedding website, today a mere eight percent of women stick with their given name.  Of course, that doesn’t mean the decision has gotten any easier to make.  Word of Mouth’s Taylor Quimby reports on the reasoning, and occasional regret, behind the decision to keep or leave behind a name.

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Word of Mouth
11:51 am
Mon December 3, 2012

Top 3 High-Tech Marriage Busters

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We discussed the quickly-developing market for spousal surveillance technology with Wall Street Journal reporter Jennifer Valentino. You can listen to her interview here:

In the meantime, we were surprised to learn how marriage and divorce are being affected by technology...and how quickly it's all happened:

1) Social Media: Breeding Ground for Evidence

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Word of Mouth
7:17 pm
Mon September 24, 2012

Crazy Love

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Pop singer Rihanna made news recently when she confessed to Oprah Winfrey her sympathy for ex-boyfriend Chris Brown, who beat her up on the eve of the Grammy Awards in 2009. Rihanna’s tears for her abuser had many domestic violence advocates up in arms, and many of the rest of us scratching our heads. Here to give her take on the complex and often baffling emotional life of domestic abuse victims is Leslie Morgan Steiner.

Word of Mouth
10:28 am
Tue June 19, 2012

Tying the Knot, Guerilla Style

(Photo by Pareeerica via Flickr Creative Commons)

Produced with Emma Ruddock

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Word of Mouth
12:00 pm
Thu May 17, 2012

Death of the Trophy Wife

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In those gin-soaked days of yesteryear, a beautiful woman on the arm was an executive’s secret weapon for landing the deal.  A young knock-out by your side signaled power, style, and proof that you had it all. Just ask all those Mad Men...

That was then.

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Word of Mouth - Segment
12:18 pm
Tue April 10, 2012

The Separation of Work and Home

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"Mad Men" certainly portrays the familiar notion of resistance to women in positions of power in the workplace, something that still rings true in many companies today. But a recent paper published on the “Social Science Research Network” explores a surprising twist in the glass ceiling story, that men in so-called “traditional” marriages with stay-at-home wives are more likely to prefer a mostly-male work environment.

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