With Thanksgiving just around the corner, ‘tis the season for awkward dinners with your loved ones’ parents. It’s no secret that navigating your relationship with your in-laws can feel like walking through a minefield, but a new study suggests that keeping close to them is a sign of a healthy marriage – for some. According to Dr. Terri Orbuch, men who get close to their in-laws within a year are 20% less likely to go through divorce later in life, but women who do the same are 20% more likely to split with their husbands down the road.
Dr. Terri Orbuch is a professor of sociology and a regular contributor to the Huffington Post, where she’s known as “The Love Doctor.” This year, she published a 26-year study looking at love in relation to the in-laws.
In 2007, researchers from the University of Texas categorized 237 motivations for humans to have sex. Recently, researchers at the University of Toronto divided the most common into two broad categories: approach motives pursue a positive outcome, like increasing intimacy; avoidance motives aim to avoid conflict or guilt. The Canadian team found that adding the fairly un-sexy drives of duty, resignation and guilt which significantly affect the health of a relationship, and could spell the difference between a happy marriage and a rocky one. Elizabeth Bernstein is a columnist for the Wall Street Journal, where she wrote about the studies published by University of Toronto in October.
If the number one comedy on prime time TV is any indication –the CBS show The Big Bang Theory holds the coveted title--nerds are experiencing a kind of cultural renaissance. Despite the increased popularity of sci-fi conventions, cos-play, and board games, finding a mate who shares a love of all things nerdy can still be a challenge. Enter the cupid of nerds, Ryan Glitch, the creator and president of “Sci-Fi Speed Dating.” Glitch launched his speed dating enterprise in 2010 at a Star Wars convention and he’s been making matches at cons ever since. IGN, a popular gaming and entertainment web site has created a web series about Ryan’s enterprise, called “Geek Love” which airs on their YouTube channel.
Pop singer Rihanna made news recently when she confessed to Oprah Winfrey her sympathy for ex-boyfriend Chris Brown, who beat her up on the eve of the Grammy Awards in 2009. Rihanna’s tears for her abuser had many domestic violence advocates up in arms, and many of the rest of us scratching our heads. Here to give her take on the complex and often baffling emotional life of domestic abuse victims is Leslie Morgan Steiner.
After the marriage between James Hanson-Brown and Lisa Combest ended, something unusual happened: Their relationship deepened.
"We got married Jan. 11, 1986, and the minister who married us told me, 'You guys are the best-matched couple I've ever talked to,' " Lisa recalls. "But I guess we were in our marriage for about a year when I started thinking that something was wrong. Emotionally I was supported, but it was the physical side of things."
At the same time, James was trying to figure out what was going wrong, as well.
This spring, Les and Scott GrantSmith will mark their 25th wedding anniversary. The couple raised two daughters along the way. But 15 years ago, they hit a crisis that nearly shattered their family. Les was keeping a secret, and that became a problem. But they solved it as a family, in a way that kept them together and happy.
In the weeks leading up to that day back in 1997, Les was certain of two things: She was a mother who loved her daughters — and she was also transgender, the term for someone born in a body of the wrong sex.
Maintaining a healthy and happy relationship is challenging for any couple…perhaps more so when one, or both, partners suffers from Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder? ADHD is an increasingly common diagnosis among school age children and can be tricky to identify in previously undiagnosed adults. Symptoms are often similar to those of depression, anxiety, and even bipolar disorder.