marriage http://nhpr.org en 6.30.14: The Wedding Show http://nhpr.org/post/63014-wedding-show <p>Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue. Today Word of Mouth takes a matrimonial journey, from “I do”, to “I don’t”. First, how the American wedding has evolved from private affair, to public extravaganza. Then, put your iPhone down! Why more couples are opting for an unplugged wedding. Plus, a look into the legal barriers that make gay divorce even more complicated than same-sex marriage.</p><p>Listen to the full show and click <strong>Read more </strong>for individual segments</p><p> Mon, 30 Jun 2014 15:26:29 +0000 Word of Mouth 48966 at http://nhpr.org 6.30.14: The Wedding Show The Bride Wore Black http://nhpr.org/post/bride-wore-black <p><em>All Dressed in White</em> - it's the title of author Carol Wallace's look into the history of the American wedding, but it hasn't always held true for brides. On the frontier - a culture centered around migrant work &amp; making do - a woman may only have a single good dress, designed for a decidedly different purpose.</p> Thu, 22 May 2014 13:56:25 +0000 Word of Mouth & Word of mouth 48951 at http://nhpr.org The Bride Wore Black Any Night Can Be Date Night...With A Bit Of Effort http://nhpr.org/post/any-night-can-be-date-nightwith-bit-effort <p><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-size: 12.727272033691406px; line-height: 17.99715805053711px; text-indent: -12px;">For the parents of young children, getting out to a nice restaurant can require some tricky logistics.&nbsp;&nbsp; Between babysitters, winter colds, and sheer exhaustion, it’s understandable when parents ditch romantic efforts in lieu of pajamas and another night of bad TV. But why not have a date night from the comfort of home? &nbsp;My wife Tiffany and I&nbsp;discovered a way to enjoy the both of best worlds…sort of.</span></p> Thu, 13 Feb 2014 21:29:52 +0000 Taylor Quimby 43529 at http://nhpr.org Any Night Can Be Date Night...With A Bit Of Effort Rethink 2014: Sex and Relationships http://nhpr.org/post/rethink-2014-sex-and-relationships <p>For centuries, marriage functioned as a political, practical, and economical union, depending on your station in life. For the aristocrats, a good marriage secured fortunes and position. For common folk, it meant having enough kids to work a farm. It is only in the last 100 years or so that the idea of a passionate marriage took hold of the popular imagination. Today, most of us are less worried about basic survival and can focus more on what we desire in a union. Usually a healthy, dynamic, secure, relationship that is predictable, but not when it comes to sex, which people want to be anything but staid and predicable. Our guest is <a href="http://www.estherperel.com/">Esther Perel</a>, she's based her career on how to unite those conflicting desires. She’s a psychologist, sex therapist and author who specializes in couples and sexuality. Her TED talk (watch it below) on “The Secret to Desire in a Long-term Relationship” has over 2 million views. Her bestselling book is called “<em>Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic</em>”<strong>.</strong> Tue, 21 Jan 2014 18:44:39 +0000 Virginia Prescott 42179 at http://nhpr.org Rethink 2014: Sex and Relationships Wedding Photographer Explores What Happens After 'I Do' http://nhpr.org/post/wedding-photographer-explores-what-happens-after-i-do <p></p><p>There’s a lot of pressure on a wedding photographer, after all the expense and attention to planning the day, the photographer is charged with capturing all of it -- the fleeting expressions, the flattering angles and happy guests – images that reinforce the undisputable rightness of a couple’s decision to unite. But it’s just the beginning of a union. Only when the guests have gone home and the camera’s been put away does marriage begin in earnest.</p><p><strong>Matt Mendelsohn </strong>is a writer and professional photographer of more than 450 weddings since 1999.&nbsp; Matt explores the meaning of marriage <a href="http://www.washingtonian.com/articles/people/remains-of-the-day/index.php" target="_blank">by reconnecting with five couples</a> whose weddings he photographed years before, to find out whether they’re relationships have grown, evolved, or ended.</p><p> Mon, 16 Dec 2013 17:53:54 +0000 Virginia Prescott 40214 at http://nhpr.org Wedding Photographer Explores What Happens After 'I Do' 'The Love Doctor' Weighs In On The Science Of In-Law Relationships http://nhpr.org/post/love-doctor-weighs-science-law-relationships <p>With Thanksgiving just around the corner, ‘tis the season for awkward dinners with your loved ones’ parents. It’s no secret that <a href="http://www.bostonglobe.com/ideas/2013/11/17/the-weird-science-laws/oxS966evzs9ymeZrWKDlEP/story.html" target="_blank">navigating your relationship with your in-laws</a> can feel like walking through a minefield, but a new study suggests that keeping close to them is a sign of a healthy marriage – for some. According to <a href="http://www.drterrithelovedoctor.com/" target="_blank"><strong>Dr. Terri Orbuch</strong></a>, men who get close to their in-laws within a year are 20% less likely to go through divorce later in life, but women who do the same are 20% <em>more</em> likely to split with their husbands down the road.</p><p><a href="http://www.isr.umich.edu/src/lcd/orbuch.html" target="_blank"><strong>Dr. Terri Orbuch </strong></a>is a professor of sociology and a regular contributor to the <em>Huffington Post</em>, where she’s known as “The Love Doctor.” This year, she published a 26-year study looking at love in relation to the in-laws.</p><p> Mon, 25 Nov 2013 18:29:12 +0000 Taylor Quimby 39143 at http://nhpr.org 'The Love Doctor' Weighs In On The Science Of In-Law Relationships Identifying The Motivation To Have Sex http://nhpr.org/post/identifying-motivation-have-sex <p>In 2007, researchers from the University of Texas categorized 237 motivations for humans to have sex. Recently, researchers at the University of Toronto divided the most common into two broad categories: <em>approach</em> motives pursue a positive outcome, like increasing intimacy; <em>avoidance </em>motives aim to avoid conflict or guilt. The Canadian team found that adding the fairly un-sexy drives of duty, resignation and guilt which significantly affect the health of a relationship, and could spell the difference between a happy marriage and a rocky one. <strong>Elizabeth Bernstein </strong>is a columnist for the <em>Wall Street Journal</em>, where <a href="http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424052702303902404579149542886151358" target="_blank">she wrote about</a> the studies published by University of Toronto in October<em>.</em></p><p> Wed, 06 Nov 2013 18:41:22 +0000 Virginia Prescott 38069 at http://nhpr.org Identifying The Motivation To Have Sex Capturing Love: N.H. Photographer Writes The Book On Same Sex Wedding Photography http://nhpr.org/post/capturing-love-nh-photographer-writes-book-same-sex-wedding-photography <div class="card-content"><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden "><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><p>In 2005, photographer Thea Dodds was hired to shoot a wedding in Massachusetts. She spoke to the prospective bride on the phone and drove down to meet the happy couple.</p><p><strong>Dodds</strong>: I went and met them and it was two women (laughs). So I didn’t even know before I met them that it was a same-sex wedding.</p><p></p> Fri, 29 Mar 2013 16:00:00 +0000 Sean Hurley 26040 at http://nhpr.org Capturing Love: N.H. Photographer Writes The Book On Same Sex Wedding Photography As The Supreme Court Considers Marriage, A Soldier's Wife Speaks Out http://nhpr.org/post/supreme-court-considers-marriage-soldiers-wife-speaks-out <p>This week the US Supreme Court heard oral arguments on two high-profile cases about gay rights, including a challenge to the federal Defense of Marriage Act, known as DOMA.</p> Thu, 28 Mar 2013 21:39:24 +0000 Brady Carlson 24580 at http://nhpr.org As The Supreme Court Considers Marriage, A Soldier's Wife Speaks Out A Rose By Any Other Name: Changing Your Name When You Marry http://nhpr.org/post/rose-any-other-name-changing-your-name-when-you-marry <p></p><p>Suffragette Lucy Stone is remembered as the first modern woman who decided to keep her maiden name after marriage – that was back in the 1850s.&nbsp; The trend took more than a century to peak in the 1990s, when nearly a quarter of women bucked the tradition of taking on their husband’s name. Since then, that number has been in steady decline. According to the wedding website theknot.com, today a mere eight percent of women stick with their given name.&nbsp; Of course, that doesn’t mean the decision has gotten any easier to make.&nbsp; Word of Mouth’s <strong>Taylor Quimby</strong> reports on the reasoning, and occasional regret, behind the decision to keep or leave behind a name.</p><p> Thu, 14 Feb 2013 16:30:10 +0000 Taylor Quimby 21972 at http://nhpr.org A Rose By Any Other Name: Changing Your Name When You Marry Top 3 High-Tech Marriage Busters http://nhpr.org/post/top-3-high-tech-marriage-busters <p>We discussed the quickly-developing market for spousal surveillance technology with <em>Wall Street Journal </em>reporter <a href="http://jennifervalentinodevries.com/">Jennifer Valentino</a>. You can listen to her interview here:</p><p>In the meantime, we were surprised to learn how marriage and divorce are being affected by technology...and how quickly it's all happened:</p><p><strong>1) Social Media:&nbsp;Breeding Ground for Evidence</strong></p> Mon, 03 Dec 2012 16:51:32 +0000 Bill Barry 17808 at http://nhpr.org Top 3 High-Tech Marriage Busters Crazy Love http://nhpr.org/post/crazy-love <p>Pop singer Rihanna made news recently when she confessed to <a href="http://www.oprah.com/topics/entertainment/music/pop/rihanna.htm">Oprah Winfrey</a> her sympathy for ex-boyfriend Chris Brown, who beat her up on the eve of the Grammy Awards in 2009. Rihanna’s tears for her abuser had many domestic violence advocates up in arms, and many of the rest of us scratching our heads. Here to give her take on the complex and often baffling emotional life of domestic abuse victims is <strong>Leslie Morgan Steiner</strong>. Mon, 24 Sep 2012 23:17:24 +0000 Virginia Prescott 13527 at http://nhpr.org Crazy Love Tying the Knot, Guerilla Style http://nhpr.org/post/tying-knot-guerilla-style <p>Why more and more couples are throwing stealth nuptials in public spaces.</p> Tue, 19 Jun 2012 14:28:57 +0000 Virginia Prescott 7147 at http://nhpr.org Tying the Knot, Guerilla Style Death of the Trophy Wife http://nhpr.org/post/death-trophy-wife <p>We take a look at the end of arm-candy.</p> Thu, 17 May 2012 16:00:48 +0000 Virginia Prescott 4999 at http://nhpr.org Death of the Trophy Wife The Separation of Work and Home http://nhpr.org/post/separation-work-and-home <p>How men in traditional marriages with stay at home wives may be predisposed to look negatively upon women in the work place.</p> Tue, 10 Apr 2012 16:18:50 +0000 Virginia Prescott 3038 at http://nhpr.org The Separation of Work and Home